If you have tried to conceive and cannot become an expectant mother, surrogate mother parenting might be the answer for you. There are many reasons to use surrogate mom. For example, if you and your husband cannot conceive and do not want to adopt, using a surrogate mom can help you fulfill your longing to become parents. Gay and lesbian couples who want a child with one partner’s genetics may also decide to go the route of surrogacy. It is not uncommon for gay and lesbian couples to have one child with one partner’s genetics and another child with the other’s, thus using a surrogate twice.
Sometimes your life partner can be your surrogate partner. Lesbian couples can choose this route, but of course it is necessary for them to select a sperm donor. There are sperm banks where women can get in-vitro fertilization anonymously where the donor is never aware their donation was used. Then there are arrangements where the donor may choose to be a part of the child’s life, especially if it is a situation where the couple chooses a close friend or relative. The decision as to who is going to carry the baby is one each couple must make for themselves after weighing their personal preferences and the advice of their doctor.
There are rules and regulations about becoming or hiring a surrogate mother that vary by state. You will need to find out all the legalities before considering this type of arrangement. There are different ways to go about the issue of surrogacy. For example, some couples choose not to become close to the surrogate, who gives up all rights to the baby. Other surrogates may have the option of changing their mind and keeping the baby, depending on the law and the specifics of the contract.
When it comes to hiring a surrogate mother, surrogate parenting is best left to women who already have children. They are experienced when it comes to pregnancy and less likely to become attached to the baby after he or she is born, especially if they have no longing for more kids. Many surrogates do it for the money, which can be substantial. And of course, all the medical and hospital expenses related to pregnancy and birth are paid for as well.